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I cry for you - Preemie Lovin'

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Y'all, my heart is full.  

These past few weeks have been busy for the Salmons, but they've been even busier for a few friends of ours. In the last month we've had TWO sets of friends give birth to twins prematurely. 

Then a few nights ago, a friend and also parent of twins born early, posted this video on my facebook wall. This dad also serves on a board of one of the NICUs our girls stayed in, & I think this is a great resource for others to watch to get a quick glimpse into what it's like to have a baby prematurely. If you have any friends who have delivered prematurely, you need to watch this. It will help you understand and give just a brief glimpse into their world. 

Grab your tissues and push play. 

Whew. 

That first scene when the mama holds her baby first the first time... WOOF... the tears just spilled from my eyes,  because I remember holding my girls and all of their cords for the first time and being overwhelmed with love & relief that I could FINALLY hold them. And OH GOSH... the scene of her crying on the drive home brought back so many memories of tears shed on the car ride home... Sigh. 

And just like all mamas who have shared a common experience, we hold a special place in our hearts for others experiencing similar situations. So when I hear of other mamas giving birth early, my heart breaks for them because I remember those early weeks/months. And although there is SO much joy in those early weeks, there is also a lot of hard work & sometimes pain.

So yesterday, on my car ride from Rose Hill to Raleigh, I cried. Not for myself, but on behalf of all the mamas out there who have to leave their babies at hospitals for weeks/months at a time. I cried for the mamas who don't get to hold their baby/ies immediately after giving birth. I cried for the mamas who have to wait to touch their children for days. For the mamas who learn to how to change diapers while maneuvering cords and wires and feeding/breathing tubes and ignoring beeps and alarms. For the mamas who juggle life outside the hospital all the while wanting nothing but to spend ALL of their time by their little's side. For the mamas who are judged by family and friends when they freak out over germs when they bring their babies home, not because they're over protective, but because the same germ that causes a runny nose in the average baby could seriously damage or kill theirs. For the mamas who have to answer awkward questions from strangers about their child's size and mental development. For the mama who hesitates to share her birth story because it's not a sweet story, and is a difficult memory to rehash. 

I cry for you. 

I cry for you & I applaud you because YOU are doing a good job. You can do this & I am PROUD of you. Keep up the good work. I know you're exhausted... and you probably don't have time to cry. I get that, so I'm crying on your behalf today. 

And let me tell you, 15 months later, it's still fresh.... but I can tell you, there is light at the end of this dark tunnel. There is joy. There is normalcy. And there will be a time, (which may differ from our girls' timeline... but it will come), when you will look around and say, "We've come a long way, but we've finally made it."

Until then, keep up the good work preemie mama. And in the meantime, know that we see you, we hurt beside you, & we applaud you. 

 

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Posted on November 13, 2013 and filed under Preemies, Motherhood, Twinsies.

Gift Giving Galore - Gift Ideas for Mamas to Be

Last week I received an email from a friend who was trying to get ideas for a gift for another mom to be! And since over the past few months we have been BLESSED with so many thoughtful gifts for us and for the girls it was easy to come up with a list - but HARD to keep it short! Seriously, everyone has been SO kind. Each time I would get something adorable, I would stop and think to myself, "I need to remember that for future gifts."  Sadly I should have taken pics of them while they were all cutesie and wrapped... BUT... I was on a lot of drugs during those first few weeks... so I'm just going to create a list here for my sake and for anyone else looking for fun/cute gifts for future moms.

Personalized Baby Blocks by Craft-E-Family.com

The girls received their sweet blocks from one of their amazing Cedarville Aunties. I had never seen these before but they are SO cute and a great way to capture all of the details of the day. Our sweet little girls' blocks have their names, individualized scripture verses, their birthdate/weight/length, and then of course a shout out to NC State. They are cute "Little Wolfpack Fans." Very fun gifts!

Ps. After proof-reading this... I realized one of the photos may or may not have nipple shields in the background... Look for the little clear sombrero - whoopsies. :) My b... My b...

Goodies for while in the hospital

I received a couple of great gift bags for while we were in the hospital as well - these were ALL so thoughtful! One was given during my hospital bed rest before the babies were born and the others were afterwards while the girls were in the NICU. ALL were extremely helpful and fun. Here are some items to consider when making a gift bag:

Chaptstick/lip gloss/mascara/headbands: we might be 50 lbs overweight, sweaty, and unshowered but by golly we still want to look semi-human! ;) Headbands are legit at hiding greasy hair and let's all be honest, everyone looks a little fresher with mascara and lip gloss. I would also add a miniature thing of dry shampoo... it's a life saver and they only cost $1 in the hygiene dollar bins at wal-mart and target.

Books/Magazines: My favs are Southern Living (love), Taste of Home, Real Simple, and of course People for the latest juicy details on pop culture.

Hand sanitizer and hand lotion: the lotion is really helpful for NICU moms because you have to wash/sanitize your hands so frequently when at the hospital.

Lanolin - if they're planning on breast-feeding... this stuff is crucial those first few weeks.

Snacks and Gum: Hard Candies are great just in case they have to go on magnesium drips or other meds that don't allow them to eat anything for 24 hrs. Other snacks are great too - I may or may not have quickly yelled at my inlaws to GIVE ME THE WHEAT THINS NOW at one point when the nurse who was administering medication said, "Let me go check with the doctor to see if you'll have to not eating anything while on this..." and I crammed some in my mouth before the nurse could starve me again. And it was a good thing I did... I didn't see food for another 24 hours. And as for Gum... let's just say it's nice to have on hand after that midday nap and you get a visitor or the nurse comes by again for their 302349th blood pressure check.

Fav Baby Books to read to the babies while at home or in NICU: Thankfully we were able to hold our girls while they were hospitalized, but some parents can't. Reading to them is a great way to bond with the baby, even if you can't hold them. And if you can hold them - it's still fun! :)

A TV series on DVD: The Mister got me all 5 seasons of Friday Night Lights while I was in the hospital/bed rest and we continued watching it while the girls were in the NICU. It was a huge blessing to be able to come home at night, check out, and be entertained without having to do much interaction.

Cute Jewelry for the Mama

Ok there are SO many options out there for this one. I received a few adorable necklaces from friends along the way. Here are some cute etsy sites and options:

Two Peas in a Pod necklace by SomethingXtraSpecial. - I LOVE mine. I'm not sure if it was ordered from this exact shop or not, but it's one just like it.

Then there are other necklaces and bracelets with baby/babies' names or initials on etsy. These are great options for a personalized gift for the mama!

I ADORE the simple personalized gold initial necklaces on the circle disks (like THESE) - so simple yet cute! Pretty much you can't go wrong with ETSY... actually... I take that back... you can... but it's pretty hard to!

Monogrammed Goodness

I never thought I'd say this - but I now LOVE monogrammed items. When I first moved to NC, I liked them... but not on everything! And it seemed like just about everything for in Raleigh was monogrammed for the ladies: purses, luggage, necklaces, towels, furniture, food, EVERYTHING. Don't get me wrong, I appreciated a good monogram every now and then, just not EVERYWHERE. But now that I have two girls - having their names/initials monogrammed on clothes, blankets, burp cloths, EVERYTHING is AWESOME. I think monogrammed outfits are adorable on babies in general - but they are definitely essential when there's TWO. Plus it's a great way to make sure your gift can't be regifted - ha! ;) jk jk jk.

Oh wow... just looking at these photos makes me tear up a bit! Look how tiny they were! They've grown so much in the last few weeks! :)

CozeyPosey Hats

Confession - These weren't given to me, but I just found their website through a fbook friend TODAY. But HOLY COW these hats are adorable & I'm totally getting some. I couldn't leave them off the gift list since I'm going to be using them as gifts as well! I have a shower that I'll be missing in October and plan on getting one of these for the lucky baby. SUPER cute.

Alright - those are my gift suggestions for mommies to be! And if all else fails - you can't go wrong with diapers and wipes. They might not be show-stoppers at showers, but they'll be singing your praises at 3am when they "run out" and realize they have another stash in the linen closet from you! Hope these help!

Much love,

Happy 4 weeks!!!

In 4 weeks A LOT has happened.

4 weeks ago today - I was miserable... my body was toxic... my BP soaring... throwing up everywhere... neurologically overstimulated... and with the worse headache I've ever had. I took a fun ambulance ride from REX to UNC and then the most beautiful thing happened... out of all that pain came two of the most beautiful bundles of life I have ever seen.

Four weeks ago tonight... this was going down...

4 weeks ago my babies were taken out of my belly and brought into this world. :) Here are their first photos (other than the ones taken in the surgical room).

Here is The Mister coming out of the OR - look at these sweet moments with the Mister and his parents. I love these. Some of my fav. photos ever!

Four weeks ago (ok technically I didn't get to see them the day I gave birth... but approximately 4 weeksish) - I got to hold my babies for the first time ever!

And less than one week ago they came home!!! And they are growing. Healthy. Beautiful. And I'm so in love. Sleep deprived... but in love.

Really a lot has happened in 4 weeks. My life has changed and will never be the same... and I've never been more happy about it! :)

(photo by our sweet friend Katherine Fallis of Furnished Photography)

Happy 4 weeks of life to Felicity and Noel! We love you more than you'll ever know!

Much Love,

Posted on August 31, 2012 and filed under Family, Twinsies, Motherhood.